There are a lot of sayings about beauty – it’s only skin deep and it is in the eye of the beholder. Sure men are attracted to beauty, but that’s not all they look for in a partner. Actually, common knowledge shows that when it comes to finding someone to settle down with, beauty is the least of their worries.
Indeed, men are initially attracted to women via their physical appearance, but that does not mean all men are looking for the Tyra Banks super model type.
So, you see that beautiful lady whom everyone is all over like flies over fresh faeces but no one makes the effort to make her their wife. You observe men with the wherewithal move in and out without talking about marriage: the beauty is going to attract several of men of both good and bad intentions but a lot more is needed to make the good one stay.
So, take note of the following "attract and keep" signposts:
Respect: men instinctively have that egoistic domineering feelings. Nothing cripples them like respect. Don't only be in your dramatic respect mode when you need something from him. Treat your man like a king especially when his friends are around.
Be nice to everyone: and everyone doesn't excludes people or strangers you meet at the restaurant or the shopping mall or in traffic. For his immediate family members, you have to be nice to them if you want a future with your man. They are the delegates who decide on major issues in your relationship.
Don't nag: It's important to take control about your feelings and perceptions because nagging largely constitutes "trust issues". Incessant nagging can make him to start avoiding you. Nagging doesn't bring out answers and solutions. Take your time and discuss your observations with good reasons you aren't so pleased with certain things.
Be his mum's eye: men love their mothers. Many men feel everything in their life is replaceable except their mum. Several other men look out for their mum's in their future partners. Your guy might sacrifice the unthinkable for you except his mum. Try and win the mum's heart. Ask questions such as: "How is mum?", "This cloth is nice. Can you get it for mum?", "When are we visiting mum?"
Note: A man who doesn't want you close to his mum doesn't love you.
Have some sense of humour: it's not a bad idea. Try to sound like Mr. Bean a while. Don't always wear a serious face as if you are a grandma of stubborn kids. Humour can't be forgotten when shared.
Tame your bazooka mouth: real men want to showcase what they have. But if you are that lady who seems to know everything, you are likely not to be given the flank role when he needs one. He would prefer moving alone all the times. You could embarrass him.
Smile a lot and be warm: Smile as if you are paid to do so. Always drop that big smile like a waitress trying to impress a customer.
Be a good cook: Make an effort to hone your culinary skills. Even if your man eats out. You don't know when a cooking test will present itself. Though, I am not fond of food, it doesn't invalidate the saying that a way to man's heart is through his stomach.
Have a dream: Show interest in developing your career and be determined to attained it. Only weak men dread strong women. But show interest in your man's career's progression.
Words aren't enough: Love transcends mere hackneyed expressions such as "I love you". Action speaks louder than words. The little things matter.
Don't try to be a champion: compromise is very important - don't be a Margaret Thatcher - trying to win every fight with gross feminine antics.
Use magic words: "I am sorry", "Pardon", "Please", et cetera. Well, these words should be used by either partners. Mind you, these words are free to use.
Dress to look good: men are constantly held spellbound with visuals. Let the way to appear give him a competition of losing you to the visual appreciation of other men. BUT please don't try fake things such as breast pumps, butts adjusters, skin bleachers et cetera. Be the natural you!
Show some independence of thought: men admire women who have something meaningful to say when their advice is sought. Don't always sound clueless. Make an effort to share your opinion on issues at stake even if you are bit sure it might sound stupid.
The stuff is not problem solver: Don't try to solve outstanding issues with sex. It's not all men who think with their lower heads in the midst of serious issues.
These are just titbits of how to keep him in tight and eventually go to the altar with him. Just be reminded that beauty and the little stuff aren't the powerful magnets to keeping a man to your apron's strings.
Indeed, men are initially attracted to women via their physical appearance, but that does not mean all men are looking for the Tyra Banks super model type.
So, you see that beautiful lady whom everyone is all over like flies over fresh faeces but no one makes the effort to make her their wife. You observe men with the wherewithal move in and out without talking about marriage: the beauty is going to attract several of men of both good and bad intentions but a lot more is needed to make the good one stay.
So, take note of the following "attract and keep" signposts:
Respect: men instinctively have that egoistic domineering feelings. Nothing cripples them like respect. Don't only be in your dramatic respect mode when you need something from him. Treat your man like a king especially when his friends are around.
Be nice to everyone: and everyone doesn't excludes people or strangers you meet at the restaurant or the shopping mall or in traffic. For his immediate family members, you have to be nice to them if you want a future with your man. They are the delegates who decide on major issues in your relationship.
Don't nag: It's important to take control about your feelings and perceptions because nagging largely constitutes "trust issues". Incessant nagging can make him to start avoiding you. Nagging doesn't bring out answers and solutions. Take your time and discuss your observations with good reasons you aren't so pleased with certain things.
Be his mum's eye: men love their mothers. Many men feel everything in their life is replaceable except their mum. Several other men look out for their mum's in their future partners. Your guy might sacrifice the unthinkable for you except his mum. Try and win the mum's heart. Ask questions such as: "How is mum?", "This cloth is nice. Can you get it for mum?", "When are we visiting mum?"
Note: A man who doesn't want you close to his mum doesn't love you.
Have some sense of humour: it's not a bad idea. Try to sound like Mr. Bean a while. Don't always wear a serious face as if you are a grandma of stubborn kids. Humour can't be forgotten when shared.
Tame your bazooka mouth: real men want to showcase what they have. But if you are that lady who seems to know everything, you are likely not to be given the flank role when he needs one. He would prefer moving alone all the times. You could embarrass him.
Smile a lot and be warm: Smile as if you are paid to do so. Always drop that big smile like a waitress trying to impress a customer.
Be a good cook: Make an effort to hone your culinary skills. Even if your man eats out. You don't know when a cooking test will present itself. Though, I am not fond of food, it doesn't invalidate the saying that a way to man's heart is through his stomach.
Have a dream: Show interest in developing your career and be determined to attained it. Only weak men dread strong women. But show interest in your man's career's progression.
Words aren't enough: Love transcends mere hackneyed expressions such as "I love you". Action speaks louder than words. The little things matter.
Don't try to be a champion: compromise is very important - don't be a Margaret Thatcher - trying to win every fight with gross feminine antics.
Use magic words: "I am sorry", "Pardon", "Please", et cetera. Well, these words should be used by either partners. Mind you, these words are free to use.
Dress to look good: men are constantly held spellbound with visuals. Let the way to appear give him a competition of losing you to the visual appreciation of other men. BUT please don't try fake things such as breast pumps, butts adjusters, skin bleachers et cetera. Be the natural you!
Show some independence of thought: men admire women who have something meaningful to say when their advice is sought. Don't always sound clueless. Make an effort to share your opinion on issues at stake even if you are bit sure it might sound stupid.
The stuff is not problem solver: Don't try to solve outstanding issues with sex. It's not all men who think with their lower heads in the midst of serious issues.
These are just titbits of how to keep him in tight and eventually go to the altar with him. Just be reminded that beauty and the little stuff aren't the powerful magnets to keeping a man to your apron's strings.
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